When I consider that the Bible says “…. a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh” (Ephesians 5:31) I do not believe that I am misguided in asking God for a husband and hoping to receive one.
I was not made to remain alone. I was created to be a part of a special, intimate relationship. Our desire for companionship, expressed through marriage, is to be acknowledged as a basic human need. It is a vital component of our design. It’s the way we were made by God.
I accept that there are those who have the “gift” of being single. For them, singleness is absolutely right, and I don’t devalue them for a moment. But I do believe that the ability to remain single all your life is a special gift. It is not something that everyone is able to do.
The apostle Paul stayed single his whole life and said, “I wish that all men were as I am…” He said this because he had in mind his ability to focus single-mindedly on spreading the Gospel. But immediately he acknowledged;
“…But each man has his own gift from God, one has this gift, another has that … It is good for them to stay unmarried, as I am. But if they cannot control themselves, they should marry, for it is better to marry than to burn with passion.” (1 Corinthians 7:7-9)
….I choose to have hope and believe Gods Word that says …“Delight yourself in the Lord and He will give you the desire of your heart.” (Psalm 37:4)
Whatever our gift let us remain occupied. Let us work and use our talents and abilities to do all the good we can for others.
Be encouraged.
From the book In the Waiting room – finding hope and inspiration when facing disappointment, by Paula J Campbell.
Copyright ©Paula J Campbell 2016